Experiencing More

Most of us experience merely a small portion of what life has to offer. We rarely take advantage of all that is available to us and in fact, become complacent and remain content to exist in life rather than live it. We often allow our dreams and fantasies to remain locked away, safely hidden in the dark recesses of our minds. We fail to recognize how deeply those hidden secrets affect our every day lives, how greatly they impact our emotional and physical well-being and the limits they place on our expectations and realities. Why do we place such restrictions on life? What prevents us from taking that excursion into uncharted territory?

From birth we are placed in a restrictive bubble, seeing the world through the eyes of parents and family. As adolescents, we expand our knowledge and limits as we begin to experiment and explore our potential. We seek to discover our own identity and test our new designs. As adults we tend to lose that spirit of adventure and accept a pattern of existence, which portrays an accumulation of our fears and inhibitions. Governed by the restrictions of societal dictates, family and friends, we retreat to our bubble. This confinement usually leaves us feeling trapped and empty with many voids to fill. We dream of adventures outside of our self imposed boundaries, but ultimately limit ourselves to watching in awe as others dare to venture into the realm of unknown possibilities.

The good news is that we are not restricted to accepting what life offers us. We can and should take what we need and desire from it. Life is only as limited as we make it. It is everything we allow it to be. There is a way to live our dreams and experience fulfillment and reward. It requires that we put away our fears and inhibitions and begin to explore, experiment and rediscover all of the possibilities that exist. With a little effort, all things are possible. We examine our curiosities, dreams and the endless opportunities; and dare to try on a few fantasies. If it feels good…DO IT! Expanding limits and boundaries extends to endless possibilities. The adventure and resulting freedom are well worth the effort.

If you think it is impossible, ask yourself why. The answers lie within you. The way is open and the means are accessible. You can make it happen and get more from life. Having faith in your capabilities as well as owning a positive attitude and an open mind allows the confidence needed to begin the journey. Thinking outside the box and allowing for a creative flow of energies will offer many new paths. We have free reign of the universe and now is the time to explore it

Learning to Love Yourself

The foundation of self-love and positive esteem is based in a true belief in yourself and in having faith in your qualities and capabilities. It requires trusting your intuition, judgment and choices. It is also vital to understand, accept and appreciate the benefits of your limitations. A holistic perspective and a positive affirmation about the realities of you are necessary to achieve your goals. Visualizing and actualizing your dreams and aspirations creates energy and power, which allow you to focus on the positive thinking processes. Believing it is possible to live your dreams is a major step in getting there.

Attitude is everything. Whatever you affirm as real, the mind interprets as reality. Therefore, speaking of positives means the mind will think positively. How you see yourself is how others see you. Your aura carries the energies of your thoughts and feelings with both the past and present represented. That projection of you touches everyone you come in contact with, allowing those around you to feel what you feel. If you think yourself a victim of life and your environment, others will see you in that light. Feeling confident, self-assured and capable allows those vibrations to radiate that sense of self to others. There is truth in the notion that power exists in positive thinking and a positive attitude not only presents an alluring aura but also brings inner peace and freedom.

Focusing on your assets and potential will motivate and inspire a call to action. If a plan happens to misfire, you learn from the experience, modify it and try again. The modification process often involves re-evaluating requirements and changing expectations. If goals are set too high or expectations overwhelming, then achieving success will appear as an impossible feat and put you at high risk of failure. Attaining goals should not be attempted in one, all-encompassing, swift step. Setting one attainable goal at a time, taking one small step at a time helps to create achievement. Rewarding yourself for each accomplishment gives positive strokes and offers a greater probability of realizing success.

Any unresolved issues from the past can create obstacles in the present. It is imperative to deal with past pain, grieve losses, put away the unrealistic expectations and give guilt and anger to their rightful owner. Turn your pain to power, let it motivate and push you to achieve your goals. Turn fear into determination. Find the positive that exists in every negative. Changing your language to reflect a positive outlook will prove beneficial. ‘I think I can’ changed to ‘I will’ affirms that reality to the mind. Think in terms of what there is to do rather than placing your concentration on the things, which are left undone.

Living life to your own specifications inspires great things. Outside influences can prove to be quite damaging and often hinder the process of attaining goals and realizing dreams. Only you know what is best for you and you are not compelled to live your life according to the dictates of others. It’s okay to be you without the approval of anyone other than you. Choose your own path, expand your limits and explore all of the possibilities life has to offer. Live life rather than be content to exist in it. Greatness is achieved by providing an environment for greatness to grow

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Living Single and Loving It!

Being Single is NOT a Negative

Society tends to lend itself to the idea that being single is a negative. The single person is most often assumed to be a miserable, unhappy being who warrants our pity and match making skills. In reality, most singles are content, well-balanced and sated individuals possessing many positives. The strength, confidence, and independence the single life provides enhance rather than detract, and presents singles with a tremendous advantage. It makes a positive statement about the person we are

As singles we can venture into self-exploration and discovery without the benefit of outside influences to alter the end result. Living alone affords us the opportunity to know who we are and be comfortable being alone with ourselves. The security we gain from the growth, self-reliance and autonomy allows us to be a valuable asset in every aspect of life. We have greater beneficial affects to offer our social interactions and relationships.

“But how can you live without sex?” That a single’s life is void of the sexual experience is a myth. Singles do not have to live without sex and normally don’t. Thanks to the efforts of pioneering women like Betty Dodson who wrote “Sex For One: The Joy of Selfloving”, the marvels of modern technology, the concept of friends with benefits and the acceptance of ‘recreational dating’, singles hold the advantage of a satisfying sex life. The stereotypical relationship is no longer required to fulfill our needs.

In preparation for a relationship, however, we take the journey into self, become aware of our requirements for an ideal match and ascertain what we have to offer as a partner. We then have more to share, which will enable understandings and help avoid misunderstandings. We are better prepared to share our lives with another. A relationship should enhance who we are rather than be all we are. Our time alone allows us to gain the skills and knowledge necessary to create a more rewarding and successful venture. Single equates to positive in any context.

Strategies For Singles

*Know that it is ok to be single and be proud

*Become aware of who you are and what you want

*Set goals and dating strategies that are aligned with your lifestyle and situation

*Gather the information and tools necessary to achieve your goals

*Develop a healthy network of family and friends.

*Date and explore new ideas and designs

*Don’t be a victim of your own insecurities. Trust yourself.

*Learn to be own best friend & advocate

*Own your own power.

*Learn to love yourself. It will make it easier for others to do the same.

*Learn to say NO and assert your needs, requirements, wants and desires to others. If it doesn’t feel good for you…don’t do it!

*Never settle for less than what you really want.

*Learn to take healthy risks…. “Feel The Fear & Do It Anyway”

*Seek balance in all things

*Take charge of your future success. Live your dreams. Life is what you make it