Learning to Love Yourself

The foundation of self-love and positive esteem is based in a true belief in yourself and in having faith in your qualities and capabilities. It requires trusting your intuition, judgment and choices. It is also vital to understand, accept and appreciate the benefits of your limitations. A holistic perspective and a positive affirmation about the realities of you are necessary to achieve your goals. Visualizing and actualizing your dreams and aspirations creates energy and power, which allow you to focus on the positive thinking processes. Believing it is possible to live your dreams is a major step in getting there.

Attitude is everything. Whatever you affirm as real, the mind interprets as reality. Therefore, speaking of positives means the mind will think positively. How you see yourself is how others see you. Your aura carries the energies of your thoughts and feelings with both the past and present represented. That projection of you touches everyone you come in contact with, allowing those around you to feel what you feel. If you think yourself a victim of life and your environment, others will see you in that light. Feeling confident, self-assured and capable allows those vibrations to radiate that sense of self to others. There is truth in the notion that power exists in positive thinking and a positive attitude not only presents an alluring aura but also brings inner peace and freedom.

Focusing on your assets and potential will motivate and inspire a call to action. If a plan happens to misfire, you learn from the experience, modify it and try again. The modification process often involves re-evaluating requirements and changing expectations. If goals are set too high or expectations overwhelming, then achieving success will appear as an impossible feat and put you at high risk of failure. Attaining goals should not be attempted in one, all-encompassing, swift step. Setting one attainable goal at a time, taking one small step at a time helps to create achievement. Rewarding yourself for each accomplishment gives positive strokes and offers a greater probability of realizing success.

Any unresolved issues from the past can create obstacles in the present. It is imperative to deal with past pain, grieve losses, put away the unrealistic expectations and give guilt and anger to their rightful owner. Turn your pain to power, let it motivate and push you to achieve your goals. Turn fear into determination. Find the positive that exists in every negative. Changing your language to reflect a positive outlook will prove beneficial. ‘I think I can’ changed to ‘I will’ affirms that reality to the mind. Think in terms of what there is to do rather than placing your concentration on the things, which are left undone.

Living life to your own specifications inspires great things. Outside influences can prove to be quite damaging and often hinder the process of attaining goals and realizing dreams. Only you know what is best for you and you are not compelled to live your life according to the dictates of others. It’s okay to be you without the approval of anyone other than you. Choose your own path, expand your limits and explore all of the possibilities life has to offer. Live life rather than be content to exist in it. Greatness is achieved by providing an environment for greatness to grow

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“It’s A Man Thing”

Are men any less complex or easier to understand than women? Men are often described as heroes, warriors, protectors, guardian angels, best friends, providers, beasts, demons, large children and egotists. Can those many personalities and qualities fit into one being without creating complexities? Do women really know and understand men? Is it the design of women to change men to suit their needs? Do men see women solely for the service and sexual pleasures they can offer? Every woman would do well to fully explore the male phenomenon, learn the truths of men, gain insight into life in their element and scrutinize the male/female dynamic.

Women and men usually hold a different interpretation of ‘male’. However, there are certain realities that bring them closer than one might believe. Yes, they view life a little differently and their sexual experiences are in contrast, but men come just as preprogrammed as women, with just as many needs and issues and are often more vulnerable. Men generally tend to be concrete, pragmatic, harbor a whimsical spirit and unlike their female counterparts don’t instinctively equate love with sex. They often do carry a touch of male ego to accompany their more serious roles and at any given moment in time can present as Sir Galahad, Peter Pan, or Captain Hook. That isn’t a case of multiple personalities, is it simply men being male?

Women often see men through their own design and tend to size them up for their potential rather than accept their realities. They train, change and under other false pretenses, manipulate men to get the results they demand. Men are pre programmed to respond and have little choice but to conform. There are instinctive qualities and characteristics however, that are not likely to be erased as they comply and accept their newly appointed role. The need for sports, toys and male bonding are an intrinsic part of their reality and will remain in tact; it’s a man thing. Those gifts of release offer compensation for the level of responsibility they are expected assume. All work and no play do create a rather dark environment.

The man dreams are made of is not one of custom design but comes in his truest form of self. He is genuine, complex, and male. He is not easily persuaded by female displays of weakness, dominance, emotion or cooking talent but is impressed by intelligence, independence and the ability to appreciate and accept the complex truths of life and the male/female dynamic. It would make sense then for women to know and understand men, learn to speak their language and be willing to accept them on an ‘as is’ basis. It is always wise to make choices based on facts rather than hopes and dreams, for in real life, there are no magic formulas for turning the frog into a prince.