Inner Voyages

Inner Voyages is an agency dedicated to providing quality services, with fees and formats designed to meet the varying needs of our clients. We offer discounted fees for organization, business and corporate clients.

We offer:
*Private Coaching Sessions
*Group & Community Coaching Workshops
*Lectures & Seminars

Our Services Include:
Life Coaching
* Personal Growth & Development Coaching
* Dating & Relationship Coaching (Singles & Couples)
* Premarital Education & Coaching
* Career Management
* Communication 101

Premarital & Wedding Services
*Civil & Religious/Spiritual Ceremonies
*Commitment Ceremonies
*Vow Renewal
*Premarital Education, Coaching & Consultations
*Family Services & Mediation

Parent & Family Services
*Family Conflict in Marriage & Divorce
*Religious/Spiritual Conflict
*Surviving Adolescence-A Parent’s Guide
*Parenting the special needs child
*The ABCs of good parenting
*Helping Teens Succeed
*Foster Parent Support Center

Tarot Reading & Consultations
Connecting Through Tarot
*Direction/Insight Reading & Consultation
*Major Arcana/Power Reading & Consultation
*Open Reading & Consultation
*Other Reading

Living Single and Loving It!

Being Single is NOT a Negative

Society tends to lend itself to the idea that being single is a negative. The single person is most often assumed to be a miserable, unhappy being who warrants our pity and match making skills. In reality, most singles are content, well-balanced and sated individuals possessing many positives. The strength, confidence, and independence the single life provides enhance rather than detract, and presents singles with a tremendous advantage. It makes a positive statement about the person we are

As singles we can venture into self-exploration and discovery without the benefit of outside influences to alter the end result. Living alone affords us the opportunity to know who we are and be comfortable being alone with ourselves. The security we gain from the growth, self-reliance and autonomy allows us to be a valuable asset in every aspect of life. We have greater beneficial affects to offer our social interactions and relationships.

“But how can you live without sex?” That a single’s life is void of the sexual experience is a myth. Singles do not have to live without sex and normally don’t. Thanks to the efforts of pioneering women like Betty Dodson who wrote “Sex For One: The Joy of Selfloving”, the marvels of modern technology, the concept of friends with benefits and the acceptance of ‘recreational dating’, singles hold the advantage of a satisfying sex life. The stereotypical relationship is no longer required to fulfill our needs.

In preparation for a relationship, however, we take the journey into self, become aware of our requirements for an ideal match and ascertain what we have to offer as a partner. We then have more to share, which will enable understandings and help avoid misunderstandings. We are better prepared to share our lives with another. A relationship should enhance who we are rather than be all we are. Our time alone allows us to gain the skills and knowledge necessary to create a more rewarding and successful venture. Single equates to positive in any context.

Strategies For Singles

*Know that it is ok to be single and be proud

*Become aware of who you are and what you want

*Set goals and dating strategies that are aligned with your lifestyle and situation

*Gather the information and tools necessary to achieve your goals

*Develop a healthy network of family and friends.

*Date and explore new ideas and designs

*Don’t be a victim of your own insecurities. Trust yourself.

*Learn to be own best friend & advocate

*Own your own power.

*Learn to love yourself. It will make it easier for others to do the same.

*Learn to say NO and assert your needs, requirements, wants and desires to others. If it doesn’t feel good for you…don’t do it!

*Never settle for less than what you really want.

*Learn to take healthy risks…. “Feel The Fear & Do It Anyway”

*Seek balance in all things

*Take charge of your future success. Live your dreams. Life is what you make it

What Do Women Want?

Sensual Pleasures of the Mind

What do women want? What does it take to please a woman? Today’s women view and experience their sexuality from a different place than those of past generations. They are finding more freedom in seeking to have their needs met and are more adamant in their demand for sexual satisfaction. Being a hero in the bedroom now requires a working knowledge of women in general and the willingness to present them with intellectual stimulation. The age old quickies and the dutiful nightly ritual hold little appeal or value. Sex is born in the mind and lives there.

Sensuality in its truest sense is created through the power and brilliance of the mind. There are endless creative ways to provoke and capture sensual feelings without the benefit of any physical application. Knowledge, intuition and creativity are the tools necessary to discover where it lives, how to awaken it, what it takes to stimulate it and how to nurture it so it will grow. A conscientious partner can create need and cravings by simply touching the mind. This offers new meaning to the old adage about the mind being a terrible thing to waste.

There are hot spots in the psyche that can be triggered by suggestion and connection. (Emotional Buttons) Pushing those buttons engenders our partner’s sensory and sexual experience. We do this by using one type of energy to spark another and by channeling emotional reactions into sexuality. Where the adventure leads is limited only by the efforts and imagination of the individual. Nothing is written in stone and there is no regimented format. It’s freelance flight.

Knowledge is power! Getting to know your partner and what makes her tick and tingle is key. The ability to unearth these secret treasures comes from paying close attention to actions and reactions that might indicate you have your finger on a button or hot spot. Finding all of those buttons, exploring the endless possibilities and discovering the wondrous places they lead, takes patience and thought, but the rewards are immeasurable.

Having well-honed intuition is a valuable asset. Liken it, if you will, to a good quarter back with a natural talent for reading the defense. If you are in tune and aware of what your partner needs, wants and desires, without her having to explain it, you hold a powerful advantage. Possessing a good base knowledge and the ability to read the signals, offers a continual win, win proposition

A creative imagination offers positive and pleasurable sexual experiences. Desires and cravings are products of the mind so it makes sense to use that power to its greatest advantage. Adding spice and adventure is the difference between sex and a sexual happening. Avoiding boredom is wise and enables the cravings for more to thrive. If it wasn’t good the first time, why would anyone want to repeat it? Taking your partner to a place where she has never been before and creating memories is the stuff heroes are made of.

Sexual stimulation is achieved and sustained through mind play and manipulation A physical presence, a verbal exchange or a mere mental/emotional connection holds great power and can create an ‘altered mental state’, a place of intense arousal and euphoria. Sensual/erotic tasks are great tools for maintaining altered states. Rituals and sensual tasks, while away from your partner can help keep the buttons pushed, the bond strong, the connection flowing and offer sexual stimulation on an ongoing basis. The mind is the playground, the body the bonus. Take the mind the rest will follow.

First Meetings Leave Lasting Impressions

Communication 101

Our communication skills offer our key first impressions and hold a lasting impact. What we say and how we say it becomes representative of who we are as our character, qualities and flaws display themselves. A few minutes of conversation is usually enough for us to be assessed, stereotyped and catalogued.

Many people believe that as the speaker we hold status and control, when in fact it is the listener who is empowered. While talking, we are involved in self and our own concepts and images, which limits our vision and scope of learning. The listener gains insight, important information and valuable clues as the one talking provokes thoughts and ideas.

Being courteous and conscientious as the listener and speaker is important to successful communication in every aspect of life. We have all experienced the frustration of being interrupted while trying to convey our thoughts. Monopolizing the conversation does not afford us any rank or power. That type of demonstrative demand for attention merely serves to present a poor image and discourage a desire for further communication. Conversations are meant to be a dialogue rather than a monologue.

There is no cure for the common word. Once said, they are imprinted in an indelible substance on our ‘Who’s who’ card. Words are commanding tools and can become powerful weapons. They cannot be retracted or erased, and if used inappropriately can damage the speakers credibility or wound and scar a listener.

Presentation then becomes the critical aspect of communication. How we say what we say is the key to positive, productive and successful results. Our words should create interest, encourage enthusiasm, stimulate or motivate. They should promote a call to action rather than provoke a reaction. Carefully choosing the words that best express our thoughts will offer a positive flow and end result.

Our ability to communicate well is our greatest asset. It is vital in conveying our wants and needs and when used wisely and appropriately, it is the key to success in any venue. A lack of regard or misuse can create a gross liability. It is to our benefit to keep our skills fine tuned and functioning well so that we do not leave behind a negative impression or worse, a loss of respect and trust.

Following a few simple procedures can make the difference in our communication success.

1- Listen with intent and curiosity

2- Listen from a neutral place without walls and blockers

3- Ask questions for clarity

4- Be courteous and conscientious in our communications

5- Show support and understanding by relaying to the speaker that he is being heard and his concerns, fears and needs are valid

6- Use the power that comes with your skills wisely and fairly

7- Never close doors or avenues of opportunity and compromise

Parenting the Adolescent

Sharing adolescence with our children is truly an exhilarating and adventurous experience. Those wondrous teen years offer parents an extraordinary education and countless rewarding opportunities. This age of youth presents teens as our greatest tutors, role‑models, and mentors. As adults we have much to profit from this time of wonder and their talents, merely by recognition. Many of life’s important lessons can be learned from these intelligent and intuitive creatures. It is through the wisdom of the adolescent that we can gain a true perspective of the genuine treasures in living and realize a profound appreciation for the relationship between ‘sharing life’ and the designations of our parenting roles.

Stereotypical training or authority does not dictate good parents and good children. The framework for this good, we so desperately seek to attain, can only be achieved through the life experiences we share and the capacity to remember. Remembrance offers us the wisdom and compassion to relate to youth. Having the capabilities to identify enables us to fully comprehend their positions, perspectives, and potential. The shared experiences promote mutual growth and respect while cementing solid bonds.

It becomes important to recognize that the responsibilities of parenting reach far beyond giving birth and child rearing. Achieving and maintaining success in our parent/teen relationships involves avid participation in the growth and learning experiences with a realistic and holistic approach. So too is a willingness to view ourselves with honesty and humility. Teaching and the willingness to be taught, guiding and remaining open to being led, will offer the positives we demand from our parenting position. Realizing that we can and do make mistakes, as well as admitting them, has proven to be a vital quality of the good parent. Recognizing that our teen might hold many right answers, would not propose any disrespect or failure, instead it captures success.

Children should be seen and heard and their value explored. Acknowledgment and appreciation play major role in the design of our parenting resume’. Acceptance of the individual our teen has become and placing his unique qualities in high esteem will provoke positive end results for both. It is through acceptance that we gain insight and wisdom. We can find knowledge, understanding and patience in the recognition of the beauty and capabilities of our teens. In this renewed cycle of discovery and evolution, we learn about valuable judgments and contentment in life’s offerings.

Our children are not best served by strategies to control their situations, by buying love and respect, or through manipulation and domination to achieve our own end. Seeking counsel from “How‑To” materials, which dictate through stereotype and portray someone else’s perception of how life should be, will usually not afford us any evidence of harmony. Moreover, expending energies pursuing a place as “authoritarian” or taking advantage of the innocence and vulnerabilities of youth will not present an appropriate means to reach our goals. Rewards are tendered solely through the living and sharing of life in our own encounters. No other person can propose or dictate how we are to live with or provide for our children. Guidance comes through the loving, learning and sharing we do in our daily lives. We are each too distinct in personality and character to be stereotyped by any dictate of ‘one rule for all’. Attaining our goals comes through active participation in our individual life situation.

Our parenting lessons are best learned and successes achieved through discovery and acceptance. There are no “rules” or sovereignty. Harmony comes naturally with discovery of self and acceptance of others. Greatness is achieved by providing an environment for greatness to grow.